The MoBster Diaries

Thursday, August 23, 2007

Makin' a list, checkin' it - oh - any number of times

Ring. Check. Date. Check. Church. Check.

But now we have to get down to the real nitty-gritty. That's right, folks. The guest list. This thing's 14 months away, but we can't move forward on anything budget-wise until we know how many people are on The List. And let's face it, it's all about the budget. OK, it's all about the budget and love, of course, but we don't need a guest list for love, now do we? Until we have the head-count, though, we can't even begin to look at some of the major expense items, like the reception. Ai-yi-yi!

The good news is that the wedding website Kate's using, The Knot, has a handy-dandy database guest list tool that lets us go in an add all sorts of information. So in addition to the usual names and addresses, we can sort by out of town guests, children, and so forth. We can even add our own categories. I'm thinking of adding: Heavy Drinker, Over-eater, and Insufferable Bore. Whadaya think?

The other good news is that we're almost there, I think, on the guest list. We need to spend a few days letting names sink in, or more appropriately, pop up. I'm sure we're forgetting someone important, but we have a solid start. We're trying to keep the number low enough so that guests won't have to brown-bag it to the reception.

I'll let you know how it turns out.

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  • Don't forget to add "can't play nicely with anyone else." Then, when you're planning the seating arrangements (by far the hardest thing, in my opinion), you may have enough people in that category for one whole table. Let them annoy each other instead of everyone else for the night. After that, let them eat cake.

    By Blogger Elsie, At August 24, 2007 at 7:58 AM  

  • I totally agree with Elsie - the seating arrangements are of paramount importance. I was at a wedding once where we were on a table with people who were obviously the 'oddities' that didn't fit anywhere else. We were told afterwards that we were put there because we were the ones who were sure to get everyone talking. Didn't work. Never met a more mserable bunch of people in my life.

    By Blogger Chris, At August 24, 2007 at 8:00 PM  

  • Actually, I don't think we're going to have a sit-down dinner reception. In the South, it's customary to have either a buffet or "stations" with various types of yummies, so folks can sit where they please once they get their food. The thought of making seating arrangements is just down-right inhospitable in the South. And even though I've been to receptions with sit-down dinners, our seats weren't assigned. Much more civilized to my way of thinking (though I know we're breaking all sorts of "Yankee" rules).

    By Blogger MaryB, At August 24, 2007 at 8:40 PM  

  • That's it. I think we'll head south before our kids are ready for marriage. Here, when it's a buffet, you can still bet that seating will have been pre-planned. I never thought of it as inhospitable before, but now that you mention it... Lucky you to not have to deal with the politics of it all :)

    By Blogger Elsie, At August 25, 2007 at 6:13 AM  

  • Yes, I can be grateful for the small favors of the Southern etiquette code!

    By Blogger MaryB, At August 27, 2007 at 10:29 AM  

  • I don't think that it is inhospitable. Leaving people to have to struggle to find a four seats together while herding small children or accidentally intruding on the mini-family reunion taking place at table seven could cause all sorts of misery. I think part of taking care of your guests is thoughtfully choosing their dinner companions based on personality and interests, the same way you would when selecting the guest list for a dinner party at home.

    By Anonymous Mrs. Bergstrom, At August 16, 2011 at 12:30 AM  

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